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To my bonus son on his fifth birthday

To my incredibly handsome, extremely intelligent, bonus son-

You are turning five this year and I cannot grasp the fact that the little baby boy I once could cradle in my arms is now a big boy nearing 4 feet tall and preparing to head off to kindergarten this year. Thinking back to the day you were born brings me to many thoughts.

That day was an amazing day for your father and mother, but I wasn’t there and I had no idea that one of my (soon-to-be) favorite people had entered the world. Unforgettable to them, but I couldn’t tell you a single thing that I remember about that day five years ago. At the time I was a college graduate, working long hours and attending more schooling to follow my dreams. I was all about me, myself, and I.

Then I met your Daddy.

I can still remember the exact outfit you were wearing the first day we met. You were working on perfecting your crawling technique and your mostly toothless smile had my heart melting after a few minutes.

You and I bonded so easily and it happened so fast. It wasn’t long before you were turning one and toddling into my arms. Before I knew it, you would be running into my arms and excitedly yelling “Manna” whenever we would pick you up from daycare.

You turned two and your little sister was born and that’s when life became amazing. For almost a year, it was you, your sister, and me together at home. You amazed me with how fast you learned to become gentle with your sissy. Having a front row seat to watching the both of you grow and bond is one of my life’s biggest blessings. I wouldn’t trade that time for all of the money in this world.

Brother and sisterBut the thief known as time has now turned you into a five year old boy who will be starting kindergarten in August. I can’t believe it. I’m having a hard time accepting that all of our time at home during the week will soon be gone. I just can’t get over it.

As you turn five years old, I want you to know that you amaze me every single day.

You challenge me to think about the world in an entirely different light. Asking questions and thinking (very) literal is your thing. You question everything about the world and make me think so deeply about various topics. I pray you never lose the sense of wonder that you have.

Right now, you save our world by being either Spiderman or a wolf ninja, and you never fail to let me know that the floor has suddenly turned to lava. You actually beg me to sit in your room and play at times, so I do because I know one day it will be the exact opposite.

You may be turning five, but when I look at you I can still see the little baby boy that I fell in love with. You still laugh uncontrollably when I tickle your feet and you still give me that same big hug that I used to get from you when you were just barely a toddler.

You are a little man who loves making surprises. The sweetest notes come from your adorable, pre-school handwriting and always warm my heart. I love that you love buying and making gifts for the ones you love. You even have a little love interest now in which you have started making sweet cards for and it is beyond adorable. Love is what you give to every one you meet and I pray that you never lose your ability to spread love and happiness to all those you encounter.

Listening to you say your prayers and thank God for your family, calling everyone by name, makes my heart overflow with love. You enjoy learning about God and are always eager to tell us about what you have learned at school. I hope you continue to pray and grow in your relationship with Christ.

The fact that you still love the “baby lulluaby” song that I made up makes my heart so happy. Every time I ask

which song to sing you at bedtime, I fear you will suddenly be too old for my song. But you aren’t yet and I get the privilege of singing you to sleep while gently running my hands through your not so baby blonde hair. Each time, I can feel my heart break a little as I swear you look older each night.

At five years old, you are a monkey bar enthusiast, break dancing king, and lover of all things Spiderman. Avid fisherman, green thumb, music lover, and dog whisperer are just a few more of your amazing qualities. You are the biggest Clemson fan I have ever known and a princess protector for your little sister. You can ride your bike without training wheels and your newest interest is “hoop ball.” Right now, you dream of becoming a police officer when you grow up. You make us all so proud and I thank God every day for giving me you.

I wasn’t there on the day you were born and you aren’t my blood, but I love you with all of my heart and soul. I care for you just as you were mine. You have taught me what unconditional love truly is. Because of you, my world is a much better place. I know it’s your birthday, but I’m the one who has received a gift.

You, my sweet boy, are my gift.



I love you always and forever,


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